Got my refund in full this morning.
Gordy she never once asked for the payment as a "gift", so I never even thought to do it that way. However, if she had asked to paid as a gift I would have walked away anyway, because presumably there's no Pay Pal protection on that if the goods are materially not as described. Whereas, even outside of eBay if you pay for something by Pay Pal, there is some Pay pal protection if things go breasts up.
However, this whole experience has done nothing to quell my concerns about high value purchases on Pay Pal or eBay. It's just not worth it.
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